Rekindle.
coaching for queer men.
take the backward step.
Being a queer man in the United States means navigating each day with a target on our backs. The threat of verbal and physical violence sometimes forces us into self-abandonment: we find ourselves repressing our natural ways of speaking, moving, dressing, and behaving just to blend in and avoid harm. Some of us have become so adept at this survival strategy that we don’t even realize we’re doing it.
While this ability to override our instincts and authentic expression helps us survive, it also erodes our dignity. Authentic self-worth can be elusive for those of us who’ve practiced self-abandonment since childhood. Our journey toward greater wholeness begins by examining these survival tactics, and reconnecting with the parts of ourselves that we’ve hidden away, learned to ignore, or cut off completely.
I believe that we have within us everything we need to thrive; that calm self-confidence is the result of turning inward to become intimate with whatever is relegated to the shadows of our body and mind. I believe that by turning our attention away from the abundant distractions of the outer world, and instead focusing greater awareness within our bodies, we create the conditions for insight, repair, transformation, and new life.
Trailblaze
Wildfires clear the way for new growth. In ongoing 50-minute Zoom calls, we turn toward your obstacles, and blaze a trail toward settledness in yourself.
Mind Map
Weekly sessions structured around a battery of personality assessments: identify core strengths & growth areas; map the route to deep-rooted confidence.
On-Call
Weekly Zoom calls, assessments, and access to daily “office hours” for ongoing collaboration.
Welcome Back to Self Confidence.
The boy holding the torch searches for the torch; what you seek is within you.
Together, we initiate and deeply engage self-study: Dogen Zenji encourages us to “take the backward step, and shine the light of awareness inward.”
Turning toward what frightens, overwhelms, and limits us - clearly observing - we take our seat in the fire. Like the Lodgepole pinecone, it is the fire that opens us to new growth - to a life rooted in self-knowledge, love, wholeness, and renovation.
Parenting queer boys
What does your queer son need to grow up whole, intact, and self-confident in a society that shames and alienates him?
Let's Connect.
Introduce yourself, and I'll reach out promptly. In the “message” box, answer this question for yourself:
“This investment will be worth my time and money if…”
Looking forward to partnering with you on the trek back to yourself.